To my surprise, there’s yet another form of online bullying out there called screen-sharing – a student attendee at the Stop Cyberbullying Conference reported that a boy was on her friend’s mac and via screen-sharing was able to see what was on her friend’s computer. It was confusing, I know. So I did my own research on screen-sharing and found that in most cases it’s a useful tool – unless, however, you’re intentions are no good. Here’s what’s good about it. 1) Remote-Control: Help out your friend or mom with PC problems remotely, (2) Screen-Sharing: Collaborate on running programs and documents with friends. (3) Remote-Access: Access your PC files from work, school, etc. (via MakeUseOf.com blog post on remote access tools)
That said, here are more of my random notes from Monday’s Stop Cyberbullying Conference:
- Parry reported that 14 suicides are related to cyberbullying – 3 of which were friends of friends.
- Parry’s poll results found that 85% of middle schoolers have been cyberbullied in one form or another.
Then came the student panelists who conducted research on younger children, and their social networking experiences with cyberbullying. The question came up, are kids at younger ages being cyberbullied? The answer from the student reporters, overwhelmingly was, YES! They reported that Club Penguin has a point system – when you give out password, people can come into your account and take away your store and points.
(sidebar - to help me better understand this – here’s an interesting thrashing from Eduardo, one of the super moderators at Club Penguin).
More stats from Parry…
- Survey found the misuse of reporter feature to cyberbully – their time is restricted.
- Notify wars: your AIM account can be terminated
- How do friends cyberbully friends? 520 girls in grades 7-12 were surveyed, 86% shared passwords with friends. Here’s a problem because friends know more about you. Friends can empathize, but not help. 44% had been cyberbullied and less than that told someone about it.
Lots of kids had password stolen and pretending then to be you and most kids are getting text bullied.
Why are kids not telling their parents when they are cyberbullied? This was a big question with a LOT of answers came straight from the mouths of the student attendees. Parents, get ready to cringe.
1) parents are disconnected from the kids’ world
2) they only make things worse
3) they’ll restrict their child’s internet access - a deadly sin.
4) we don’t want to make a big deal of it and you can deal with it yourself.
5) you feel bad anyway and it is embarrassing enough. If it got out, it may spread.
6) parents have a way of panicking and telling other parents
Of course there are more reasons, I just couldn’t type that fast to keep up – but I think you get the gist. Parents need to listen more, react less, and discuss the issues of cyberbullying before it starts.
How to help?
1) Students can help each other by actively listening to each other- offline.
2) Guidance counselors need to be like undercover agents and provide support without everyone in school noticing. When there is a bullying issue, don’t call it out over the loudspeaker for the student to report to your office.If it makes it to the local police office, it’s too late to intervene.
3) Parents and schools need to work together, and both parties should educate themselves as to what is out there.
4) Make students smarter at the university level – I’ll tell you tomorrow what Pace University is pioneering for students majoring in education.
5) Parry says, TAKE 5! See YouTube video
Tomorrow, my final post will include more resources, and a fine group of panelists.