If you are a teacher, changing your name is very difficult during the school year. I can recall every teacher I ever had who changed their name after they married. Can you? I have many friends who seem to maintain two identities: their professional name pre marriage and their married name. Unfortunately in our district emails invariably revert twice a year back to maiden names and teachers must go through procedures to get the changes re-instated.
In addition to changing driver’s licenses, you must get new social security cards, fill out ten pages of forms (okay, maybe just 4), copy your marriage certificates, and sign away your first born child to change your name after marriage. Adding a spouse to your health insurance is easy-peasy… getting emails changed is a nightmare.
I have been Diane Renee Ritts Chen for 26 years. That’s a LONNNNNNG time in my life. Suddenly I am Mrs. Kelly. I finally changed my facebook name today, but I cried when Ken asked me to change it on some other pages. I feel like no one will know who I am or identify my new name with my previous writings and experiences. We tried several google searches and I showed how DianeRChen pops up in many places but Diane R Kelly only popped up on facebook.
How did those of you who changed your names after you married cope? Did you have identity crises? I wonder about our students who travel through multiple marriages and adoptions. How do they cope with name changes? Are there any books out there about this?